Wednesday, December 23, 2009

How To Destroy Jealousy And Neediness








I had a conversation with a friend the other day.
His friend had asked him one day, 'What he should do when a woman he like tried to make him jealous?'
I asked him what did he meant?

'You know, when the girl that you like tells you that she is going to spent some great times with her guy friends for a wild birthday party or some chalet gathering...'

I was like..
'Huh?
Is he having a relationship with her or something?'

'No'.

'Then? Doesn't that tells you or him something?'

You see, she is just a girl he likes.
She is not his girlfriend or wife.

The fact that, she told 'the friend' that she is going to spend a great time with her friends and probably going wild with them and he is not able to make it is enough to drill,scratch, claw the brain juice out of a male's mind.

This is quite common.

After all, we've all had women we find incredibly attractive who haven't quite "noticed us" and cause us to feel jealous of their attraction to other men.

But...

This is not 'jealousy'.

If 'the friend' is having a relationship with her or something, YES
that is 'Jealousy'.

But he is NOT.

He is feeling 'Neediness' in fact.

He is focusing on one girl and put ALL his Attention on her.
Just HER.
Putting all the eggs in one basket so to speak.

This is the mistake most of us guys make.

We get so wrapped up with a girl that when she does anything with another guy,
setting Alarm bells ringing off in our heads!

'Oh no! What am I gonna do?
I had never got the chance to prove myself to her. I like her!
Other guys gonna steal her away from me!!!'

And when we realise there's very Little you can do, Helplessness, Anger, Frustration creeps into our minds.

(These are emotions that will hurt more than help you)

The Neediness feelings.

You feel you NEED to attract this girl to you.
You feel that you NEED to compete for her affection.
You feel that you NEED to prove to her that you are the better man for her than the other guys out there.

However...

Ever ask WHY?

WHY?
Why is it YOU who needs HER?
Why is it not the other way around?
Is the world nowadays going upside down?!

Diversify

When it came to eliminate the feelings of NEEDINESS,
Diversify your choices.

See.
It is easy to enamoured with one woman that we cut ourselves off from great opportunities with other women.
I've been there. I do know there are others who did too.
A mistake we learnt.


When you 'Diversify', you'll start accepting these opportunities instead of ignoring them.

This means, when the girl had other activities with other men,
what do you care?
You had other girls to occupy your time.

And when you had choices, women start NEEDING you.

Now, that's a position you want to be in!

Start having lots of choices instead of just one.
I do know friends who been in a situation where he feel frustrated when the girl of his dreams,
be with some other guy in random instead of him who had spent so much time to be with her when they were not together.. yet..

Have choices..

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